What’s in a name? I think Shakespeare said best but when you are living a BiCultural life everything is in a name. If you know me personally you may know me as Rita Ledezma-Hernandez while others may know my maiden name hyphenated. Why is that exactly well many Latin cultures use both the husband and wife’s last names.
It was all very confusing for me when I first got married, I mean what name was I suppose to take? Here in the US wives simply take their husband’s last names and that is that. However if you think the last name is a big issue try having kids. What were we going to name them? Who should they be named after? What if we make someone angry?
A million different question ran through my mind and there are always a million different answers. My youngest brother said something to me though when he had his son, “I want him to have his own identity and nothing to live up to.” His son was given a non-family first name and then named after my sister in-law’s dad and my dad for his middle name of James. It worked out perfectly and my brother is right. While we want our children to have names that honor family members sometimes that is a lot to live up to.
I am named after my Grandmother and my mother. My Grandmother was the most kindess caring woman you would ever meet and I am sad to say I try but I don’t come close. my mother was super mom! She could do it all and again I don’t live up to that. Daniel is named after Edgar but is called Daniel so no one gets confused which is perfect as he is the first son.
I decided a long time ago that our children would have blended names! If they got a Spanish first name then they got an English sounding middle name. I felt that way we honored both cultures! For example: Magdelene Grace, doesn’t get any more blended than that! Although my mother prefers Meredith Lucia!