One of the first things you learn when you are in a bicultural relationship is that the world sees you as different. I never thought anything about it but of course he did and so did the rest of world. Especially living in the South where as much as I hate to admit still has a lot of the old views on things. It is something that is simply born and breed into some (not all!) Southerners and there is little you can do to change that view-point.
However the very fact that our relationship was bicultural has made me a better person. I was forced to learn things about his culture that I probably never would have known. I was forced to step outside of my comfort zone and grow a thicker skin about a lot of things. I became a part of a family that was so different from my own yet they never once saw or treated me as an outsider. I was accepted just the way I am.
I learned to love myself just the way I am as well. I saw myself through his eyes (in the beginning) and that woman was not the overweight, shy, weak girl that I had spent a lifetime believing I was. Instead I saw a beautiful, vibrant woman who has learned over the years that she can survive and conquer anything. It has not always been the easiest relationship to have but then most relationships aren’t easy. I have had to endure a lot and learned how to say I need more but because of it I am the woman I am today. I don’t know where any of this goes from here and that is okay.