After years of having both mine and hubby’s toothbrush in the bathroom I have only mine. Taking his away was another step towards letting things go. I am going to be honest here and say thought of scrubbing the toilet and then sending it to him crossed my mind. There was even a fling out in the woods moment. However I am trying to be as calm and rational as possible.
I placed it in a plastic bag and simply put it in a box with some other things of his. I will send the box to him when I get everything finished. Truthfully it hurt every time when I went into the bathroom and saw it there. At first it was just too hard to remove it and then later I told myself I didn’t want to change things too much because the kids would notice. I wanted to protect them as much as I could. Now I want them to know that we are moving forward in our lives and all that it entails.
There are pictures of him still in the house but they are family pictures or ones where he is with the kids. I have made a point of moving those into the kids rooms and the one or two int he living room in actually large family portraits with my entire family so he tends to get lost in the crowd. It doesn’t bother me as much and I don’t want the kids to ever think that they can’t have photos or anything of his they want. I am simply changing my space into my space. He has taken up enough of it.