4 Things You’ll Be Happy To Know About Divorce

Divorce, it is the dirty word of all marriages. No one ever thinks they will get divorced on their wedding day. You think about all the happiness in your future. However, the cruel fact is that about 40-50% of couples divorce in America. As a Catholic I never thought for a single second I would divorce. I thought my faith and love would help keep things together. What I discovered is that divorce doesn’t care about your love or your faith. It will happen sometime regardless of what you want. Now, looking back I know that it all worked out the way it should have. I thought I would share four things you may be happy to know.

1. You Will Be Okay

That should be an easy thing to remember. However, when you are in the middle of a divorce fight, you don’t feel you will be okay. Especially if the divorce comes out of left field. You feel as though nothing will be okay ever again. You feel as though your heart has been ripped out of your chest and your world is burning to the ground.

2.It is Possible to Part Amicably

Many divorces don’t end on good terms but there are some that do. If you wake up one day and realize that your marriage isn’t working your spouse may think the same thing. I have a friend whose relationship with her ex is better than ever. Being divorce has given them a new appreciation of one another and they are thriving while raising their children. They’re married to other people now. My aunt’s former daughter in-laws all spent holidays with the family with no problems. Now, I could not do that. The urge to throat punch my ex would be too great.

3. Your Lawyer Is Your Best Friend During Your Divorce

Finding a lawyer, such as Quinn & Lynch, P.A., you feel comfortable with is important. Why? They are going to the one person who will help you navigate the messiness that divorce is. While they will not be taking out for drinks or dinner, they will answer questions you have. One of my biggest concerns was about who got the house. I mean, I wasn’t earning enough to find a new place and if my ex had wanted it I knew I would be in a financial strain.

4. Divorce May Not Happen to You

Bet you didn’t think that would be on the list, huh? Well, according to a Bloomberg article last the divorce rate is going down thanks to millennials. They aren’t getting married young the way baby boomers did. They are waiting until they have the careers on track and are much pickier about who they married.

If I had to do it all again would I? The simple answer is yes, I would. There are plenty of things I would do differently. In fact, I am certain that if there is ever a next time I will go into any relationship with open eyes. I wouldn’t wear the same rose-colored glasses I did. I also am not bitter and wouldn’t take that out on any other man. That is something I took away from my divorce. It is a bitter and nasty event and while I was down for a while I did not stay there. Instead, I found my own happy.

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