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An Update {Of Sorts}

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Wedding rings
By: State Farm

Most of you will remember my post recently about everything falling apart. I didn’t know where my marriage was heading as my husband told me he no longer felt the same. I wanted to give you an update of sorts on how things are going and where things stand. As you all know I have been simply crushed lately and having a really hard time getting through the day.

I didn’t really know where all of this had come from because I thought things were going good. Since my uncle’s heart attack (last week) we have been texting each other most days. It has been friendly, you the how are you sort of thing. He told me he was having some pain and even told me he was scared. In all of our years together this was only the second time he had ever admitted to being scared.

Well he recently texted me and things were the same but then he asked me if he could come home. It was the happiest moment of my life (well at least up there in the top five.) I of course said yes and he said he would when this job was finished. I am not counting on anything, I mean could still change his mind or something else could happen. However I feel like I am in a better place as I have had to really find my own strength in the last month and I have learned what I will accept and what I won’t. I am going to take it one moment at a time.

 

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  1. Stay strong and stay with your convictions about what you will/will not accept. Never settle – best of luck and you will be in my thoughts.

  2. The cliche that God never gives us more than we can bear seems trivial when we are going through such things. Though it may be true, it sure doesn’t seem like it at the time. I surely hope that all will work out in the end, but please I agree with Ellen, never settle. You are in my prayers as always.

  3. I got goosebumps reading this and I will definitely pray for you. Keep your strength and maybe he has thought a lot and knows what he really wants. I do pray that things work out for you. Having things like this happen takes your whole heart and you feel as though nobody really understands. Keep us informed and wishing you the best of luck!

  5. This makes me glad for you! Obviously I don’t know what will happen or what is best–those are things in your own heart–but I am glad that things will have a chance to resolve however they go. I’ll not join in the advice “not to settle”– “settling” might be okay. Whatever that means. Anyway, I hope for peace for you in any and every way that comes.

  8. I need a like button on these comments! I wanted to reply to each and everyone but then I realized I would be saying the same thing over and over., so I thought this one be best. First THANK YOU ALL! I cannot tell you how much all of your prayers and support have helped me through all of this. Elle, don’t worry I won’t settle. I have done that too much in the past. The funny thing is I wrote this post over the weekend and scheduled it. Last night he actually called me and we talked. He told me he missed more than anything and that he loved me. There is so much more to share and this is just the beginning.

  9. I am so happy that you two are trying to work things out. Life can throw us for a loop sometimes but in the end I believe there is always a lesson to be learned. Just try to make time for each other. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

  10. All you can do is stay strong! You are in my thoughts. I’m so sorry things have been so rough for you lately.

  11. I hope things keep looking up for you and you don’t have to be in a state of pain/sadness no matter what happens. I hope that you and your husband can work things out! Sending you all the positive vibes I can so you remain strong through this time!

  12. That is a Fantastic update! I am very happy to hear that you feel like things are looking up! I also saw in the comments he called and you talked! that too is really great news! I know it is hard but just stay positive! Marriage is one of those ever evolving things that sometimes that people hit a bump and give up. I applaud you both for backing up and attempting to work things out… One of my favorite songs has a few lines in it that bring me courage. Not sure of your taste in music, but look up the words to “It’s not my time” by 3 doors down, read them and THEN listen to the song… Anytime I feel like my marriage is starting to rock, I blast this song and it helps me find confidence that I (with God) am not going to let the world break me!

  13. I can totally relate with you on this. I am in somewhat of the same situation but a little different. Are you supposed to feel lonely when you are married? We have grown so far apart over the years, with one common goal give the kids a stable life. I wish you two all the luck! Life is to short for unhappiness!

  14. Such good news, thanks for sharing. I know you are trying to not get your hopes up, but still the excitement and relief are there. Glad to read your comment, too, that he called and talked.