I never got a lot of love or relationship advice form my mother growing up. As far as she was concerned she secretly hoped that none of us would ever find anyone or get married. It sounds harsh but it is the truth. She wanted us all to stay home and never leave. In her defense that is just how she was raised. My grandmother was the same way and my mother simply could not help it. The best love advice I ever got actually came from my younger brother.
He was a bit of a player, I mean all the girls loved him and still do. He has hat way about him! He is polite to a fault, good looking, and knows how to treat a lady. Sorry girls, he’s married to a wonderful woman! A few years back I was staying with him for a while and Edgar and I had one of the worst fights ever. I was so upset that I wouldn’t even talk to Edgar on the phone when he called. I figured that was it and it was over. My brother however told me that it was not over. He said that Edgar didn’t need me to fill the physical part of his life. A man could go out and get that taken care of anywhere. He told me that Edgar kept calling knowing full well that I was most likely going to cry which is something most men avoid at all costs and that I needed to relax.
This was the best part and soemthing I have found to be true! He said when I got home if Edgar was there then he loved me. That I should not complian, bring up the fight,or anything. Let it go and just relish the fact that I was loved. Why? Because when it came down to it Edgar, as a man, knew that I would bring up the fight, yell, cry, or whatever else that women do. Yet he still showed up to face all of that. My brother said I was to always remember that Edgar doesn’t need me but has chosen me. Men can go out and find a woman anytime they feel like it but if they don’t, if they instead come home to where they know it may be difficult at times it is out of love. That is how a woman truly knows a man loves her. When things get tough, even if he leaves briefly, he comes back to face it by her side.
What is the best love advice you have ever gotten?
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I would have to say the best love advice I’ve gotten is to show and tell your husband that you appreciate the everyday things he does for you. Once my husband came home at lunch to wash a sinkful of dishes I was too tired to get to the night before, just so I wouldn’t come home to a messy kitchen after work. That’s love – and I made sure he got a big hug and kiss to let him know how much I appreciated it.
That is love!
To be loyal to the person you love. Ideally it works both ways but others don’t always have your standards. I don’t compromise those standards, even if I end up alone. Not so bad if you like yourself 🙂
That is really good advice!
How wonderful to have a brother that loves and cares about you so much. The best love advice I ever got? That is a good question. So good that I don’t have an answer. I guess it would be from my dad, “Follow your heart, but listen to your head”.
My brother is great that way. We may argue every once in a while but I know I can trust him to tell me like it is.
Great advice your brother gave you. I think the best advice I ever got was from my father. He said a marriage is like a job. You need to show up every day and put your heart into that job. That it’s one of the most important things you will ever do in your life. He said that’s why they call it a labor of love. I still believe his advice. You have to work on it every day.