I had someone just drop by today and I had no idea they were coming. I was more than a little embarrassed because I wasn’t really dressed for company nor was the house ready. That got me thinking. Long ago you didn’t just drop by people’s homes, they had times that were acceptable for visiting. What happened to those rules?
As I say that, let me be a little clearer. Siblings can drop by anytime because I don’t really care if y’all see how horrible I look. cousins who are more like best friends can drop by whenever as well. Let’s face it girl, we have seen each other at our worst and will be right there with the shovel to help the other bury a body. My mother (if she didn’t live with me) could not just drop by nor could my father or grandparent if they were alive. They would all be far too judgemental about the state of my home or my state of dress.
With that said, why in the world would you drop in on someone who may not be prepared for your visit? There are days when we wake up and think it just isn’t going to happen. Our hair is pulled up because we forgot to comb it. We are wearing pajamas that are three days past needing to be washed because some days are just those days or weeks for that matter.
When I know someone is coming over I make sure the house is clean, I am clean and dressed. I bake or put together something I can serve and end up enjoying the visit. When someone just drops by I am so worried about what they are thinking. Not to mention the stress of if I remembered to put extra toilet paper in the guest bathroom, have I vacuumed this week at all. It is just too much.
It is all so stressful that I can’t enjoy myself. The entire thing is awkward and I worry so much afterwards. Like am I supposed to thank them for stopping by when I didn’t ask them to? Can I say it’s not a good time? Would it be rude to hide in the house and not answer the door? Maybe they didn’t see my car in the driveway and will think I’m not home.
Now you are asking yourself if I have ever hid in the house like that. The truth is…. yep I most certainly have. I have no shame about it. I will do it again. I am awkward and weird and proud of it. It took me a lifetime to be okay with who I am. I like me and my friends understand and accept this could happen to them.
![\\\\\\\"\\\\\\\"](\\\\\\\"https://d5nxst8fruw4z.cloudfront.net/atrk.gif?account=r2cEh1aAod000d\\\\\\\")
I like to let someone know if I am going to see them. I think it is rude to just drop by. I don’t like someone dropping by because there are days when I’m not dressed for company. My house is usually tidy but I don’t like surprise guests.
I would never & have never just dropped by someone’s house. I hate when it happens to me. That is why I have a locked gate to get in my yard. Also, delivery drivers letting the dog out is the main reason.
I don’t drop by anymore because I hate when someone does it to me!
I never just drop by. Mostly because you just don’t know what they have going on and I wouldn’t want anyone doing that to me.
I dropped by on my dad once years ago and he did not appreciate it. I don’t drop in on anyone and certainly don’t like people dropping in on me.
No one likes the pop in! I would never ever do the pop in but I have had it done to me.