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Friday Cocktails – March 11, 2022

March 11 2022 Friday Cocktails

Friday has rolled around again and that means it is time for Friday Cocktails! Can you believe we are already into March? It is crazy and things have been so busy. I got the heart monitor off and saw the doctor. I will share everything about that in another post with you all. It seems like this year is just flying by, and before we know it, Easter is going to be here. Isn’t that crazy? One of the hardest things about this year so far has been not having the kids with me day in and day out. 

I know that the new arrangement may be best for them as it will allow me to deal with my health issues, but this is hard and some days I feel like it makes my depression worse. If you aren’t familiar with what happened, you can read about it here. I do talk to them every single night, and the first month was heartbreaking. There were a lot of tears on both sides. Now, I am the only one who cries, and I do my best to do it after I hang up the phone.

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Doubt

Divorce is always the hardest on the children. I thought things had finally settled down and we were in a good place. That was until my ex decided he wanted a different sort of arrangement. I felt like my hands were tied and I did the best I could. Only time will tell if I made the right decision or not. I was just so afraid of losing them forever that I backed into a corner and agreed. Now I question that decision every single day. 

Was it really a decision that I needed to make? Did I not fight hard enough? Was there something else I could have done? Could I have gone to court and my mental health and other health issues would not have been a problem? There is just so much guilt. Maybe there is supposed to be, I don’t know. What do I do now that my ex and his new wife went about all of this in a rather horrible way? I guess I shouldn’t have expected better from him after everything, but I did. At least when it comes to the kids. He never questioned my parenting before. 

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Rita
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I live in a small Georgia town that you most likely have never heard of and I LOVE it! My house is more than full as I am a single mother of four & caregiver to my aging mother and uncle. Lover of all things Outlander. Goes to the beat of her own drum woman.

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  1. One decision that nagged me for a while was settling a lawsuit before it went to court. I kept wondering if I should have persisted and gone through with legal proceedings against the person. I’ll never really know if I made the right decision or not but I just try to put it out of my mind.

  2. Absolutely, yes. Years ago, I made the same decision that you have for many of the same reasons. I have regretted it ever since and still deal with the repercussions of that decision every single day. The guilt and sadness and loneliness have been my constant companion for many years and that only exacerbates my depression and physical health issues. As someone who has gone through what you are going through now, I can only say that I feel your pain, Rita.

  4. I’m sorry you having to deal with that, I am a divorced single mom and my daughter is now a single mom. I questioned all the decisions I had to make and deal with the guilt of what I could have changed or done to make things better and now I watch as she does the same. I think that as a parent that will always be in question and we will always struggle with guilt in different matters as our lives move on, but you know what, WE ARE NOT PERFECT, and I think as long as our children are kept healthy and reasonably happy then we’ve done pretty good, even though it may not seem so! As to the other parent, they are not perfect either and they have to remember that, they are not in your shoes and we are not in theirs, they should always keep the kids first in their thoughts and remember that what they do affects them the most. The decision you made was the best you could do in that moment, if it doesn’t seem right, then takes step to change it, when you can or if your children aren’t happy! Wishing your all the best~

  5. Sure I have doubted a decision that I had made and all I can do is pray about it and try to do better in the future.

  8. Yes I have doubted decisions at times.
    I think I made the best choice for that time.

  11. I doubt myself a lot so yes I do sometimes doubt my decisions but in the end the problem always comes out resolved

  13. Especially the decisions I’ve made regarding my 3 children, there was always doubt. Even though they are grown, and have children of their own, the doubt still creeps in. Worry follows. Anxiety weighs me down. If…I had done things different, would they have this problem…or that.
    Then I realize it was done, I did the best that I could at the time, and I let it go….

  14. I still doubt my decision to stay in MN vs move to Colorado where the weather is warmer. But I can’t dwell on the “what ifs”.

  15. Most of the time I deliberate quite a bit before making a big decision and ultimately I go with my gut each time. I’m very rarely let down because of my intuition

  16. I have doubted decisions I have made but once they are made there is nothing you can do but move passed it

  17. Yes, I have doubted decisions that I have made in the past. Just have to try to move forward and hope for the better!

  19. Oh boy, I am always full of doubt. I am trying to get better about just rolling with the decisions I have to make. If I make a bad one unless it is something I can fix, there is really no use in agonizing over it.

  21. Yes, I doubt many decisions that I have made. Unfortunately, I have not quite figured out the best way to deal with those regrets.

  22. Yes, a couple, but I just learned to live with it and get on with my life. We are all just doing the best we can.
    Thanks for the contest.

  23. I am sorry that you are having to deal with all of this and I hope that things work out well for you. I doubt decisions that I make sometimes but eventually I realize that it was all for the best.

  25. I try not to doubt my decisions but when I do I just try and make the best of it.

  26. Yes, I often doubt my decisions, but once I have made that decision I try not to do the what ifs.

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