Her

I never thought I would be lucky enough to become a mother. Even though I came to the role in a very roundabout way and none of my children are biologically mine it doesn’t change the effect they have had on my life. For example Victoria is becoming more and more the young lady that I hope I had a hand in creating. When you are young and you dream of growing up you have an idea of things that you want in your life. I remember thinking I wanted my children to do all the sports and things that we did and some things I never did. I wanted to be that mom. You know the one who shows up for every event and every other parent is jealous of.

I am not that mother I will tell you that! I show up for events and while I look as though I have it all together I don’t. Sometimes I forget about the event until the last-minute or sometimes I hate going all together.  I am not huge into sports and going to all of those can be taxing for me. I smile and cheer as I should all the while thinking I wish I was somewhere else. I hate the way kids are taught that there are no winners or losers at games and everyone gets a trophy. I am not knocking those who do think that way I just feel that sports tend to be the one area that help teach kids the way life truly is.

The one thing I love going to though is dance class. I never took dance growing up but wish I did. I was far too clumsy but I love that Victoria loves it. She enjoys every second and while I would never push her into something she didn’t want to do I wouldn’t let her quick when she first wanted to. After the first class she decided it didn’t like it but it was her idea and I wouldn’t let her quick. I told she had to go to at least a month of classes then if she still wanted to quit she could. Now she can’t wait and I hope that one day she looks back and remembers that I taught her to never give up.