I found this on Pinterest and I wish it was something I could say to Edgar or at the least made sure he saw it. It is one of those oh so true quotes that for women makes us feel better. It is something that men (and women) need to think about as well. It is so easy to take someone for granted. My secret wish (and God forgive me) is that he wakes up one day feeling this way.
It is not something I am proud of but as I am going through the stages and have now hit the angry stage, there it is. I feel this way but it will pass and I will move on as I have been doing. In g=fact, it is all that I can do really. I am curious though as to what both men and women think of the quote. Do you find any truth in it?
I live in a small Georgia town that you most likely have never heard of and I LOVE it! My house is more than full as I am a single mother of four & caregiver to my aging mother and uncle. Lover of all things Outlander. Goes to the beat of her own drum woman.
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So true, I took for granted the love of my husband, I was lucky enough to have a second chance, he was involved in a head on collision, he survived but it was an eye opener..I show him daily how much I truly love him.
I am so glad that you got that second chance. Love is easily given and easily thrown away. We should never take a single nanosecond of it for granted.
I so agree with this on so many levels. For one, it is not just spouses and lovers who fail to see the moon for their focus on the stars. Those “stars” can be anything at all that separates or detracts from a relationship or even a family. It can be money or work, hobbies, another person or even wanting fame or some kind of acceptance from others…thay you neglect or deny or even turn your back on those you chose. It can be any relationship really…partners or spouses or even parent/child. And when you lose sight of what and WHO is important, you lose time. Dignity. Security. Not just love
So much is lost and its sobhard to putbyour trust in another who may forsake you or take you for granted. The one thing theae lost people will never find is true love,trust or security. Life and those in it will never be enough for them. That search to attain and have everything will leave them empty and in the dark. Only thw aun and moon can remove the darkness…stars I see is just bling and distraction…like the money and riches and temptations of life. Im shooting for the moon…the stars will burn out way before this…”someone should be smart enough to get that by now. Been there too. You have to shine your own lighr and move on.
By “someone” I mean your ex. He will find out…too little, too late.
I could not agree with you more. I am putting myself back together and focusing on the things that really matter, the kids, and the rest I am leaving to God.
I do completely agree with the quote. I see this in small ways in my own life my husband always have so much on his mind that he spends a lot of time by himself.
Everyone is always so busy with other things. Looking back now I wish mine had come to me with every stupid little thing. Remind your husband that the problems or whatever is on his mind will be there tomorrow and to lay them aside for a while. They don’t go away, they are always there. We just have to chose to set them down.
I completely agree with this quote. It’s so important for BOTH partners to show that they love and appreciate the other. My husband is actually wonderful about this. He’s constantly coming up to give me a squeeze and say, “I know what I’ve got.” I actually feel like I’m the one who should be more demonstrative. Wishing you the best as you work through the stages. Feel the anger – you certainly have the right.
I agree with this quote 110%. I think to many people are trying to hard to have “things” and don’t realize that life isn’t about the things. It’s about the people in your life. Do you treat others they way you wish to be treated? That is one of the things we have worked hard to teach our children. All the money and toys in the world won’t make you happy. It’s the ones you love and that love you that bring happiness into your life. I also think Edgar will wake up one day and realize all he has lost. Not just you but also the respect of his children and family.
This is a very tried and true message that rings true. It’s the first time I’ve heard this quote. I recently read an article that talked about how the #1 reason for divorce, as spoken by those who initiated the divorce, is to seek happiness. And often times that happiness is assumed to be somewhere outside the marriage; perhaps in the arms of another. The overriding message is that marriage isn’t mean to make you happy. Here’s a few quotes from the article:
“But happiness is the result of a healthy marriage. It’s not the reason for marriage. Happiness is a great thing, but it’s the by-product, the afterclap of marriage. It’s not the point.
The point of marriage isn’t to find our missing half. It’s to help each other become all God intended. Our future, real selves. In marriage, two people partner to that end. They see the best in each other—the person God created them to be—and they push and pull each other toward that goal.”
Read more at: https://relevantmagazine.com/article/promise-you-cant-keep-marriage/#PJXgEOQ53dvvh1Sx.99