Don’t worry I am not going to get graphic with here. As you all know that hubby and I don’t get to spend every single day together because he works out-of-town some. What that does mean is that we have to work twice as hard to keep the love spicy between us. When he comes home the last thing is wants to hear about all the stuff that has gone wrong or needs to be fixed.
5 Things to Keep Love Spicy
Here are five things that we do that help keep things spicy and bien (well) between us!
- Text Messages: We send these a lot while he is away. Even if it is a simply “How are you?” This allows us to connect and feel like we are together even we aren’t.
- No Problems: That is the rule, when he walks through the door there are NO PROBLEMS. What that means is that for the first 24 hours I don’t share anything (unless it is urgent) that has gone wrong, needs to be fixed, etc. This gives him time to relax and not feel so overwhelmed.
- All About Us: We make sure that each and every day that we are together there are as many us moments as possible. It is important for to know that we love spending time together.
- Favorite Foods: Okay this is a bit cheesy but I always make his favorite foods the first night he is back home. It makes me feel great and he loves them so why not?
- SUPRISE: This one actually happened by accident a few years a go. One day in the middle of the afternoon he called and asked what I was doing right at that moment. I told him that I was scrubbing the bathroom because the kids were spending the weekend with their friends. About 10 minutes later he came home! It was the most perfect surprise and something we have continued to do throughout the years. Sometimes he comes home without telling me and sometime I drive to where he is without telling him.
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I think these are great! I do some of these kinds of things too. I still tuck a little note into my hubby’s lunchbox every week ~ just “Have a Great Day” or whatever. I love your surprise visits!
I tuck little notes in his bag or put a new picture up inside his truck before he leaves too.Just my way of saying I love you and miss you.
thats sweet! we try to do things like this too. He’ll stop by and bring me breakfast or lunch as a surprise
I like your tips. It is hard to remember to put your spouse first sometimes when you have all kinds of things going on with the kids and life in general. I love the No Problem rule. I need to work on that. There are days I swear that I barely let my husband get thru the door before I tell him all the nonsense he doesn’t want to hear right away. Thanks for the tips. You can never work to hard on your marriage that’s for sure. 🙂
I just figure the last thing he wants to hear is problems. It’s important that we function well so that the rest of our family can function properly too.
I think all of these ideas are so great to do for keeping the relationship spicy! I like the one about not telling all the problems when he comes home. And being spontaneous is so important to have a great fun relationship! Cooking his favorite food is so loving!
Funny story about the food, once before we were married I was cooking potatoes. He asked what kind of potatoes and I showed him where I was mashing real potatoes. His response was “You are going to be the best wife.” I was thrilled by that simple remark that I have always made a huge effort when I cook. He grills for me though because I love when he grills.
How nice! I do some of these, too. I agree with you that making his favorite foods may sound a bit cheesy, but I love to do this, too. I think these small things add up to a great relationship. <3
These are such wonderful ideas, I’m not going to go into details but my marriage could really use some spicing up its not very easy at the moment.
It’s so great that you’ve both found these special ways to keep your relationship exciting and fun! It really does take a lot of work to maintain that special spark when life gets in the way, but your little ways to remind yourselves of what you share are probably just the stuff that keeps your love fresh and spicy. It’s great that you’ve incorporated these mutually and do them without any expectation!
These tips are so wonderful. I really appreciate reading these as I am so new to marriage and sometimes I don’t know what I am doing! Thank you for sharing these ideas with all of us.
Speaking from a male point of view, I have to say that you are absolutely right about the last thing a man wants to hear when he comes home is about stuff that needs to be done or fixed (i.e. no problems). Also, the text messaging is very helpful, as my wife and I also employ the same tactics when one of us is out of town on business. I think my wife may have have either written all of these guidelines or read about them, because she is very strategic about doing all of those things and it really does help. And believe it or not, I have also pulled off the SURPRISE too!
I really like these! Sometimes, you read these tips and they are too graphic for my taste or they are kind of on the impracticle side, but these are sweet, simple, and I like how they focus on what’s important. I am going to bookmark these, or print them out or something, so that we can both look at them. Thanks!
Great advice! I’m getting married next July and my fiance also travels few days a month. I think it’s good thing. Gives us a chance to miss eachother, and reminds us how much we love eachother.
great tips! I really agree with them all. they are nice little reminders to help keep a marriage strong and fun!