A couple of weeks ago I filed for my divorce. I kept telling myself that I wouldn’t do it I would wait and let him but in the end I knew that it was past time to let him and that life go. He no longer loves me and to be honest I think that my feelings have finally changed towards him. The hurt and the pain was simply all too much and the need to move forward was simply greater than anything else. So now I facing the problems and hassles that come with all of that. I have all of his stuff packed up and put into storage so that he can get it and am waiting to find out what the situation with the kids will become.
The older children are my step-children although him and I have custody and I don’t know what will happen there as of yet. Although he has made no effort to change the current living arrangements and to be honest I don’t think that he will. If nothing else I know that he wants what is best for all of the kids. The biggest thing is finding the strength to get through all of it. The last few weeks I have just felt drained, like just all of the energy is just gone. I get up and just don’t want to work at all. But I am pushing through and I think that once I find my own rhythm a little more I will be alright. I know that this is the right path for me and I will tackle each hill as it comes.
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Wow, Rita, that is so difficult. My mother has been divorced 3 times so I know how tough it is. Stay strong.
Thank you Mary. It is difficult but I think I am pulling through.
Oh, love! This is one moment, your strength will see you through and when you think you can’t know that you have my prayers. I’ve read your blog for a long enough to know that you are an amazing, loving woman who deserves the best.
Thank you so much for your kind words. It has been a bit rough but we are getting there.
Oh Rita I know you will make it through this. You have become so strong over the last few years. You have always put your children first and done what is right for the family. I truly believe that you are doing the right thing for the family by filing for divorce. I know it’s not easy. You deserve so much more. I pray you will find it. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Thank you Tammy. It just felt like it was time and something I needed to do.
This must have been really difficult but, also, freeing. Good for you for taking the reins of your life. Onwards and upwards.
It was difficult but like you said freeing.
My goodness Rita, I had no idea. I know I’m new to your blog and everything but I’m so sorry you are going through this. I guess better now than more years of unhappiness. I wish you the best and you will be in my prayers.
I am so very sorry that you have to go through such a thing and your children, Do know you have friends and DO know that Jesus is there with you .. Even when you feel like you have failed , even to yourself YOU HAVE NOT.. I know when I am feeling that way I have to reach deep inside and know that how much I am fighting and know how much my Father Jesus has his arms around me…..
You are a strong and resilient woman! I know it sounds cliche, but it’s true “Time heals all wounds.” You just have to wait it out. Hope things get much brighter for you!
Hi Rita,
I am so sorry to read about your divorce. It’s been a couple months now since you filed, so I am hoping and praying that you have been doing well despite that major life upheaval.
I once heard someone compare a divorce to the death of a loved one. I have experienced both a divorce and, years later, the death of my soul mate. I know all too well the anger, hurt, self-blame, depression, sense of failure, loneliness, financial insecurity, and intense emotional turmoil that results from divorce.
Just know that you are not alone. I’ve been there. Reach out if you need to. I am happy to help in any way I can. Even if it’s just to lend a listening ear. HUGS!! 🙂
Darlene,
Thank you so much! Divorce is very hard and there has been plenty of blame. The truth is never should have stayed in the marriage as long as I did. He never truly respected or loved me and that is something I have to live with. I take each day as it comes and stay strong in my belief that things will one day be much better.
I am sorry you are going through such a difficult time. I have only been for 5 years and sometimes I think what it would be like without my husband. After I pray on it I realize that we all have are difficult moments and when we get past them I am glad I have and love my husband. I know things are tough and I suggest talking with a priest. Our faith in the Lord will always guide us.