I work from home and my daily outfit is usually a pair of sweats and tee. That is when I bother to get out of my pajamas. That happens more and more in the last few months. I suffer from depression and when life hits you hard it’s sometime difficult to bounce back. That tends to show in what I am wearing on a day to day basis, which if you were to come to my house you would think “WOW!” I dress and look like a depressed person most days.
I am sure the poor girl in the IGA thinks I only own like one or two pairs of pants because I know I made at least two trips there last week wearing the same thing.I know that I need to and I have been trying dress myself a little better. I think that when you take the time to look good you tend to feel good. So I have decided to really start making more of an effort. One where I get up and actually put on real clothes (it is going to be so difficult) and to really get this eating back under control. What has happened is in the last few months my eating has gotten out of control as my life has spun out of control.
I have gained a little weight back but nothing that I can not get rid of once I get my head into the game better. While I am not talking about putting jeans on everyday, I am talking about taking better care of myself so that I can feel better. It all really hit me the other day when my cousin asked me how my heart was. I love her and she is my best friend but she generally doesn’t ask things like that. We laugh and have a good chat. I have aortic stenosis so it is not far fetched that she would ask. When I said fine she said that she didn’t mean from the congenital defect but from everything else. That while she loved me I looked like H*** and it is time to stop. You have to love someone who is honest.
I live in a small Georgia town that you most likely have never heard of and I LOVE it! My house is more than full as I am a single mother of four & caregiver to my aging mother and uncle. Lover of all things Outlander. Goes to the beat of her own drum woman.
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I am glad for you that you have your cousin to talk to and help you through the tough times. I know you have been going through a lot lately. Hopefully things will start looking up for you again. Just remember that God doesn’t give us more than we can handle.
Without her sometimes I don’t know what I would do.
I also suffer from depression, I also live in sweat pants, it’s so true that when I get dressed into jeans wow do I ever feel good about myself but it’s to putting on those jeans, being depressed sucks the life out of you, also like you I have put on weight, I’m depressed therefor I eat then I depressed due to the weight gain..it’s a vicious circle.
It is a vicious circle and for me much of my depression has now become physical pain so if I don’t do something about it I will just sink further into the black hole.
Sorry to hear, my meds do help me but I do have days where I just don’t want to get out of bed, I make myself get up every morning, I have some control but there are days where it’s just black..like you say. I’ll have you in my prayers.
I tried the meds but they just didn’t work that well. I know that I have to just get into the right frame of mind.
I imagine it can be difficult to force yourself to get ready when you don’t “have” to, but I think you will find that there is a real psychological benefit to dressing up for yourself. It’s a way to say, “I matter and I’m worth it.” Good luck to you.
It is difficult when you don’t really have to do anything. I do have a couple of pair os dressy comfy pants that I wear from time to time
I have to agree with you about it making you feel better. I know that for me on the days when my fibromyalgia is bad and I don’t want to do anything, that taking a shower and getting dressed help me both mentally and physically. When you look better you feel better. My sister is the one that usually kicks me in the butt and tells me I look like hell. We all have to have someone to do that for us. They do it out of love.
We do all need someone like that in our lives. I agree that it is good for you both mentally and physically.
I am glad that you have your cousin there to talk to. I wish I had someone closer to talk to. I think it’s important to have at least one person who will be truthful with you and not just tell you what you want to hear. I believe that I may be a little depressed as well. I, like you have just got to get my head back in the game. I also need to lose some weight. I am the biggest that I have ever been and I know that most of the weight has come about because I am not happy.
I am sorry, I know that you haven’t been happy. Things will look up I promise. Sometimes all you can do is go through it.
I have been living in sweats for 13 years mostly. Being sick and down for the count most of that time is also depressing. Not being ABLE to get out much. I also have insomnia so bad I cant get to sleep and has been that way since a preteen. So I stay in my sleep clothes (in winter, MORE sweats) and dont’ change til noon somedays, or maybe not even til I shower at night.
One thing I have found is that my self worth over these years has directed me to not “need” nice clothes. When you don’t (cant) work and you have a big family you decide that you are put last. And for me the hair, makeup and clothing was put way on the backburner. It got to the point where even my husband would raise an eyebrow when I wanted to spend money on myself…a purse or getting my hair fixed. I was never expected to get a “smart” phone because I was home most all the time.(I finally got one) I realized my family just learned to believe I didnt deserve anything. Because many Moms give up all they have and all they do for their kids, for the most part. I started shopping online for myself a bit, of course still getting the sales prices. But having a few new things and yet be comfy has changed my way of thinking. I even bought some Victorias secret yoga pants! They are probably NO better than Target ones but I felt I deserved something good quality and fun. (My 14 year old is jealous that I have yoga pants that are nicer than hers. Wow, could not beleive she actually even said that…like that was wrong!)
Anyway, if we buy a few things that are cute, comfy and sometimes even colorful, well, it can help bring you out of a funk. I guess they call it retail therapy? For me though, even if I got some new things that are really sale priced and make me LOOK better…well, I feel a bit better. I may get a nod from my husband or have the kids say Mom you look nice. It does help. Now, I just need to get my hair cut…it’s been TWO years and I’ve been chopping it off myself. The girl that was doing it is gonna just freak. LOL> Time to find some wrinkle cream too…have never invested in good face care. OH MY it is scary!
I could not have said anything better! I cut my own hair too and have for years as well as dye it myself. No one wants to wait with me while I get mine done but I have to sit four hours with them! Some times something that makes us feel good is all we need.