Welcome to the first day of 25 Days of Me! Today I thought I would start with something pretty easy and that is the fact I am a middle child. Yep, that explains so much right? There are four of us and I will explain how I am the middle and an oldest all at the same time.
The Oldest Girl
I am the oldest girl of my parents but am also my father’s oldest biological child. He adopted my older brother who is from my mother’s first marriage. Being in the middle isn’t so bad but then also being the oldest of soemthing isn’t always so great either. There is my older brother, me, my sister, and then my baby brother.
Four Years
There are exactly four years between me and my oldest brother as well as me and my baby brother. My parents would have had more children but my mother suffered three miscarriages. One right before I was born and then one right after. The third was just before my sister was born. My sister (who is three years younger than me) was a difficult pregnancy for my mother and she was meant to be the last but my baby brother was determined to come along a year later. We never let him forget that. Nor the fact that he is the only one who doesn’t really have a family name. He was named for the doctor that delivered him. The rest of us got strapped with the names of other family members.
Difficult Relationships
My siblings and I have all have rather difficult relationships with one another. Well, some of us do. My baby brother and I do not. We talk daily and generally check in via text a few times a day. My older brother and I were very close growing up but as we have gotten older we have drifted apart. Now that he is almost 50 he makes a point to call more. He’s the loner of the group.
Although when he does call he will keep me on the phone for hours. My sister and I have never had the best relationship for so many different reasons. We do attempt to have a normal from time to time. She feels it is more than okay to text me at 3 am because she has a bird in her house. I feel the need to point out that it is in fact 3 am and she woke me up. She said she didn’t know who else to text. I mean her boyfriend might have a first option but there you go. Things will go alright but then sometimes there are just too many past hurts.
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I was excited yesterday when I read your post about doing 25 days of me on your blog this month. You do share a lot in your post however I’m sure a lot, like this post, wouldn’t be mentioned simply because it wouldn’t apply to whatever you are posting about.
I have one sister that is 4 years older than me. We have always been close even tho we have completely different personalities. To keep it short, a couple of years ago my boyfriend, of 10 years, and I decided to start going to our hunting camp and hunting on our land. The only people that were hunting our land were my nephew, my sisters son, and my uncle, that took over all the upkeep on our land and equipment, planting food plots, etc… my uncle started doing this 5 years before my Daddy past away when he, my Daddy had to go on dialysis. Therefore I knew 300 acres was plenty of woods for 3 or 4 people to hunt. My sister got hysterical about me and my bf staying in the camp and being there in general. And my nephew had maybe stayed in our camp 1 or 2 times in the past 2 years. My sister called my Mother non stop ranting about it and my Mother had to tell her that I had just as much right to be there as my sister did and actually more right than my nephew. My sister has yet to let it go. It hurt me so much. I had no idea that she felt the way she did about me. I am still hurt however I try to maintain our relationship when I have to because she is my sister and I love her. My bf has done a lot of work and paid for everything out of his pocket simply because he appreciates my mother letting him hunt. My sister still throws in a snide comment in a text usually every chance she gets therefore I know she still feels the same as she did. I probably shouldn’t have written this to be published but it has greatly effected my feelings about the holidays. I have always enjoyed Christmas because it is the one time of year that we are all together. Even tho we keep in touch often it isn’t the same as all being together. I will continue praying about it and I haven’t stopped loving her but still am so hurt over how her feelings about me are and can’t understand where in the world they originated. Sorry for the novel.
Thanks for your post and I look forward to the rest and promise I will not write a novel as a comment on any more.
Please delete my comment. I shouldn’t have written all the above on the internet. Probably no one would ever see it but just in case please delete it. Sorry for the inconvenience.