Mom vs. Mommy

What do you children call you? Mom, Mamma, or Mommy? Maybe it is something else. I call my mother Ma but I called her Mamma when I was a little younger. Of course as a small child it was always Mommy. As for what I am called that too depends. I have stepchildren who I officially adopted years ago.

Originally I never expected to be called anything other than Rita. When Daniel and Victoria called me mom I cried the first time. From day one I have been mom to them. They introduced me to people that way. There birth mother they used to call Mommy. However as the years have gone by and they have gotten older they began to call her by her name. It is something I never told them to do. It was their choice and I support whatever they want to cal her. We have talked about it and they both said they just don’t feel as though she is much of a mother to them anymore. That she hasn’t been for a number of years.

There was a lot of things that happened that led me to not only adopt them but to do that after I was no longer with their father. That adoption came as a surprised to me. I didn’t expect their mother to ask me to do that but when she did I no problem saying yes. Now all of our lives are where they should be. They both spend time with their birth mother every couple of years. She lives in another country and is doing well for herself.

As for the twins they have called me Mommy since they could talk. It’s ironic because they are not my biologically children either. They are the result of an affair that my ex had. Their birth mother wanted to abort them but decided to give them to us after we pleaded. We had to pay all of her medical expenses but it was worth it.

I am both Mom and Mommy to children who didn’t come from my body but own every part of me heart and soul. It wasn’t in the cards for me to have children of my own. We had tried and there were plenty of times that ended in heartache. Eventually we stopped trying. There was no point. I just couldn’t carry a child to term. As sad as that is, I made peace with it and have found that my little mix-matched family works for us. It is the family that I needed at the moments that I needed them.

WHAT DO YOUR CHILDREN CALL YOU? LET US KNOW IN THE COMMENTS BELOW.